Books / Resources

For Learning More….

Understanding Family Systems as a Framework for Learning About Self and Others:

  • The Dance of Anger:  A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships, by Harriet Goldhor Lerner

Note:  This book is not just for women.  It was written in the 1990’s but the principles it describes are applicable to both men and women.  Dr. Lerner has written other books on the same theme, but this is her first one.

Favorite Books on Mindfulness, Zen and learning to be in the present moment:

  • Wherever You Go, There You Are, by Jon Kabat-Zinn
  • Radical Acceptance, by Tara Brach
  • True Refuge, by Tara Brach
  • Nothing Special, by Charlotte Joko Beck
  • Everyday Zen, by Charlotte Joko Beck
  • Full Catastrophe Living:  Using the Wisdom of Your Mind to Face Stress, Pain and Illness, by Jon Kabat-Zinn
  • The Happiness Trap:  How to Stop Struggling and Start Living, by Russ Harris   (a great book to learn about and practice Action and Commitment Therapy, which includes learning how to watch versus believe all your thoughts, allow full expression of your various feelings and still live a full, value-guided, self-defined life)
  • The Mindful Way Through Depression: Freeing Yourself From Chronic Unhappiness, by Mark Williams John Teasdale, Zindel Segal, and Jon Kabat-Zinn

Understanding Your Personality Type

  • Free online test:
  • Life Types, by Sandra Krebs Hirsh & Jean Kummerow
  • Type Talk

For introverts or to understand introverts:

  • Quiet:  The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, by Susan Cain

End of Life Issues:

  • Being Mortal:  Medicine and What Matters in the End, by Atul Gawande
  • Can’t We Talk About Something More Pleasant?  A Memoir by Roz Chast

On Loss of Belief and Spiritual Deconstruction:

  • Faith Shift: Finding Your Way Forward When Everything You Believe Is Coming Apart, by Kathy Escobar
  • Questions are the Answer, by David Hayward

Career and Life Decision-Making:

  • The Pathfinder: How to Choose or Change Your Career for a Lifetime of Satisfaction and Success, by Nicholas Lore
  • What Color is Your Parachute,  by Richard Bolles  (buy a newer version, the author revises this every year)

These two books are for folks willing to work really hard at finding work and a life that they love.  Not for the fainthearted but well worth the work if you decide to do it.

Understanding Personal Transitions

  • Transitions:  William Bridges

A classic for anyone in the middle of major change.

Existential Issues:

  • The Worm at the Core:  On the Role of Death in Life, by Sheldon Solomon and Jeff Greenberg
  • The Antidote:  Happiness for People Who Can’t Stand Positive Thinking, by Oliver Burkeman
  • The Denial of Death, by Ernest Becker


Just great reading:

  • Brain Pickings website (URL…)
  • The Sun literary magazinecovers a wide variety of human issues – provocative, honest and hopeful even while it deals with tough stuff